Fighting Fair
Kevin Charnas has some great amendments to the rules of fighting fair for couples:
* "Ask and Answer questions directly. Again, keep it as simple as possible. Let your partner know you hear him or her."
As in, "I FUCKING HEAR YOU! I STILL SAY, NO!!" See? Simple.
* "State your problem as a request, not a demand. To make it a positive request, use "I messages" and "please"."
As in, "PLEASE, stop being a fucker." See? A very kind request.
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* "Hold hands, look at each other, and remember you're partners."
We ALREADY hold hands. To keep from hitting each other.

